I loved shel silverstein growing up. Funny, smart and sassy, his books of poetry are still some of my favorite things to read through. While I laughed through many poems as a child, they are starting to affect me differently as an adult. Especially this one:
Whatif by Shel Silverstein
Last night, while I lay thinking here,
some Whatifs crawled inside my ear
and pranced and partied all night long
and sang their same old Whatif song:
Whatif I'm dumb in school?
Whatif they've closed the swimming pool?
Whatif I get beat up?
Whatif there's poison in my cup?
Whatif I start to cry?
Whatif I get sick and die?
Whatif I flunk that test?
Whatif green hair grows on my chest?
Whatif nobody likes me?
Whatif a bolt of lightning strikes me?
Whatif I don't grow taller?
Whatif my head starts getting smaller?
Whatif the fish won't bite?
Whatif the wind tears up my kite?
Whatif they start a war?
Whatif my parents get divorced?
Whatif the bus is late?
Whatif my teeth don't grow in straight?
Whatif I tear my pants?
Whatif I never learn to dance?
Everything seems well, and then
the nighttime Whatifs strike again!
some Whatifs crawled inside my ear
and pranced and partied all night long
and sang their same old Whatif song:
Whatif I'm dumb in school?
Whatif they've closed the swimming pool?
Whatif I get beat up?
Whatif there's poison in my cup?
Whatif I start to cry?
Whatif I get sick and die?
Whatif I flunk that test?
Whatif green hair grows on my chest?
Whatif nobody likes me?
Whatif a bolt of lightning strikes me?
Whatif I don't grow taller?
Whatif my head starts getting smaller?
Whatif the fish won't bite?
Whatif the wind tears up my kite?
Whatif they start a war?
Whatif my parents get divorced?
Whatif the bus is late?
Whatif my teeth don't grow in straight?
Whatif I tear my pants?
Whatif I never learn to dance?
Everything seems well, and then
the nighttime Whatifs strike again!
My Whatifs now are different; older and more introspective. I don't worry about my teeth growing in straight (they didn't) or if I don't grow taller (I won't). Instead my whatifs are along the lines of whatif we miss a tick, whatif the cancer comes back, whatif something at work changes, whatif I don't like my internship, whatif this...whatif that...whatif, what if, WHAT IF.
I'm learning, though, that my whatifs only have as much power as I let them take. I can either be controlled by my whatifs or learn to control them. I can either live in fear of the unknown or try to be okay with not having all the answers. I can choose to worry about the things I can control and let go of the billion and a half unknowns that I can't.
Knowing all this doesn't always makes the whatifs easier, though. Learning to be okay with the fact that there are whatifs that won't have answers has been a good, though long, lesson. Every time I find another whatif that could take over my mind, I have to remember that these little things only affect me if I let them. Now, the secret is to not let them. Easier said than done, but I'm learning. Slowly. Too bad it's a lesson I have to reteach myself every single time something new stresses me out... :)
LOVE THIS!!!!
ReplyDeleteThanks, Jenni!
DeleteNever think what if :) believe me, just live :)
ReplyDeleteI'm trying to learn to do this. It's just so hard. I want to be in control, even though I know how unhealthy that really is!
DeleteI'm new here. I can't get enough of Shel Shilverstein, and Oh, the Places You'll Go, by Dr. Seuss. I also enjoy, Jack Prelutsky.
ReplyDeleteBack to the whatif: I also suffer from the whatif syndrome; what if, my life had not been hard; my looks were those of a model; my parents had been the Cleavers, and I had been the dutiful, docile child? Boring! I like this post.